Have realistic expectations. You naturally want to help your depressed loved one, but do not expect to solve all of her problems. No one can do that. Remember that you do not always have to have an answer or a solution for every difficulty your depressed loved one has. At times, you may convey more interest and receptiveness by paying attention and listening but not suggesting anything. Most important, do not expect the depressed person to embrace all of your suggestions joyfully. Given her mood and cognitive distortions, she may be pessimistic that anything can help her feel better. Expect that, and be pleasantly surprised if she accepts your help.
- pg. 156, When Someone You Love Is Depressed – Laura Rosen & Xavier Amador, ISBN 978-0-684-83407-8