Don’t be so quick to judge your needs. If you immediately assume that what you want is selfish, unreasonable, and unfair to your depressed loved one, you will lose an important opportunity to sort out the possibility of getting your needs met in a way that is healthy for you, your loved one, and the relationship. If you have the thought, “This is selfish”, do not assume it is necessarily a bad thing for you and your loved one. Your own needs may be every bit as worthy as the needs of your loved one. The trick is not to dismiss your needs outright. Give yourself the time to determine whether they can be met constructively within the confines of the relationship.
- pg. 142, When Someone You Love Is Depressed – Laura Rosen & Xavier Amador, ISBN 978-0-684-83407-8