Weigh your needs carefully against those of your loved one. Paying attention to your own needs does not mean you have to ignore your depressed loved one’s needs. You also don’t want to ignore the fact that the depression is putting her in a more vulnerable position than she normally would be when not depressed. The best way to strike a healthy balance is to be open. The balance can be tipped abruptly if you unintentionally let the depressed person add a weighty sense of guilt. Both you and your loved one should try to put everything out on the table, within reason, so that you can balance the scales together, weighing each of your needs one by one.
- pg. 144, When Someone You Love Is Depressed – Laura Rosen & Xavier Amador, ISBN 978-0-684-83407-8